2000 Vol.70, No. 6 Xavierite

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Vol. 70, No. 6
Wednesday, November 22, 2000
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"He said-She said:" Date Rape lecture success
By Jennifer Koziel and Catherine
Yanikoski
Xavierite Editors
On Wednesday, November
15, Katie Koestner came to share
her personal experience with the
SXU community, as well as an 
informative speech on how to 
combat sexual assault and avoid 
potentially dangerous situations.
After graduating from her
high school in Pennsylvania, Katie
decided to go to a college in Virginia. 
At the beginning of the
school year, Katie got together with
her friends, and met a guy named
Peter. He was very good looking
and seemed nice.
They started to see each
other and went to dinner, where he
asked her if she would go to his
parent's house in Greece with him.
He told her that there would be
three rules to follow: that she had
to drink, wear certain kinds of
clothes, and the third was that she
would have to participate in sexual
intercourse with him whenever he
wanted to.
He played the last mandation
off as a joke, and Katie found it odd
but didn't think too much of it. He
ordered champagne to the table, and
she sipped a little, and later 
suggested that they go to her dorm
room to dance. The night ended
up with Peter trying to disrobe
Katie, at which she adamantly refused.
They began to argue, and
Katie remained awake until 5 a.m.
to keep the argument from going
any further and to make sure he
stayed asleep and away from her.
At 5 a.m., Peter woke up and came
closer to her. It was then that he
raped her. She told him "no" many
times, but he would not listen.
In her talk, Katie pointed out
that the most important message
she could give to the men in the 
audience was that if just one, or at
best, all of them could stand up and
say "rape is wrong," then that
would by far accomplish more than
any of her talking could. Brett
Sokolow then led the audience in
an interactive jury case which 
began the lecture portion of the night.
Katie was very inspiring, and
the performance was incredibly
educational. Handouts were avail-
able to all students on subjects including
advice on how
to avoid date
rape and sexual
assault, how to
deal with the
feelings after an
instance of
sexual assault,
how to prevent
stranger rape,
and how to help
a friend or
loved one who
has been sexually 
assaulted.
Suggestions for how
men and
women should
avoid date rape
include being alert of surroundings,
not studying in an empty classroom,
and being willing to make a scene
when feeling threatened or uncomfortable.
When nervous, approach security 
personnel, always avoid deserted 
parking lots, and empty laun-
dry rooms and walk with a friend
when it is absolutely necessary to
approach such places.
The lecture was sponsored by
Athletics, Career and Personal 
Development Center, Residential Life
and Student Activities.
Jennifer Koziel/Edilor
Katie Koestner, date-rape survivor and Brett Sokolow, a Higher
Education Attorney who specializes in sexual assault issues.
Jennifer Bishop gives lecture against death penalty
By Jennifer Koziel
Xavierite Editor
On Monday, November 6, a
lecture entitled "A Matter of Life
and Death" was sponsored by the
Catholic Student Association, Muslim 
Student Association and AFC
Upper Room Association. Jennifer
Bishop, a former Queen of Peace
high school teacher, delivered a talk
on her opposition to the death penalty.
Her story began about ten
years ago when her sister Nancy,
brother-in-law Richard and their
unborn baby were murdered. They
lived in the wealthy suburb of
Winnetka and had just gotten married. 
The couple was especially
delighted when they found out they
were going to be parents. They had
Jennifer Bishop holding a picture of her
deceased family.
what was considered to be an ideal
life.
One night in April about ten
years ago, Nancy and Richard were
returning home from her father's
-birthday party. When they opened
the door, they were greeted by a
sixteen-year-old high school student, 
David, who lived a few blocks
away from the couple.
He held a 357 magnum and
a pair of handcuffs. David made
them lie down on the floor and
handcuffed them both. Nancy and
Richard tried to reason with the
teen to let them go, but were forced
to go into the basement with him.
There together, Nancy and Richard
awaited their fate.
David proceeded to shoot
Richard in the back of the head.
While Nancy sat there with his
blood on her, David pointed the
gun at Nancy's stomach with her
baby inside and shot her. She tried
to make it up the stairs, but failed
when the teen shot her in the back.
For thirty minutes Nancy
was alive, and during that time she
took her husband's blood and on the
wall, she drew a heart with a U in
the middle, which stood for "love
you." According to Bishop, this is
what Nancy stood for, love. She
loved everyone.
David told another student at
his high school what he had done.
Finally, the student came forward
and told the police what David had
told him.
Death penalty continued on page 3